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The supposed atsrological match-up of Rich and me

April 7th, 2009 Comments off

As we are just days away from our seventh anniversary, I thought it was time to see what the “stars” had to say about my relationship compatibility with Rich.

David: Aquarius (with Venus in Capricorn)
Rich: Leo (with Venus in Leo)

Source: http://cafeastrology.com

How David approaches romantic relationships:

David is generally steadfast and deliberate in love, finding safety and comfort in all that is tried and true. David can be on the cautious side about sharing his heart, but his reliability as a partner is hard to resist for many people.

David acts respectfully in love, and takes extra care not to hurt a partner. For that matter, he takes extra care not to get hurt himself! This self-protective quality can sometimes frustrate Rich, simply because David is not very comfortable with letting himself go on a romantic level. Once David’s defenses are down (at least some of them), he is a warm, tender, and even vulnerable lover.

Things are at their best in relationships with David when his partner understands that David shows his emotions and care through actions rather than words. What appears to be a certain coolness, aloofness, or even snobbishness actually hides a fair amount of vulnerability and warmth. When David feels safe and comfortable with someone, he is far more demonstrative.

David’s is a strong sensuality. He attracts others with a quiet charm that fairly reeks with competence. There is a controlled manner about him when it comes to love, and potential partners can sense it. It can drive them wild if they are so inclined! David is are attracted to a partner who is responsible and respectable. Someone who is passionate may at once scare him and appeal to him, and these conflicting emotions and reactions can lead to quite a powerful attraction. Perhaps a passionate person is exactly what David needs to loosen up a little. David has much to offer others, and his dependability is sure to be appreciated in the long haul. For those who are up to the challenge, discovering the earthy sensuality and vulnerability inside David will be a tremendous reward. They will have to win his trust, and a little persistence will certainly help.

How Rich approaches romantic relationships:

Rich can be “stuck” in the first stage of romance, when passions run high and they can’t seem to get each other out of their minds. Rich never wants this stage to end! When Rich is in love, the relationship consumes him. Rich radiates the love that he receives from David, and reverberates with the energy of love. Rich is ardent and affectionate with David. The adoration Rich gives may not be (and probably won’t be) matched, and this is when you falter. Truth is, David may have a different style of expressing his love. It may be just as ardent as Rich’s love, but Rich tends to equate adoring expressions of love with love itself.

Rich tends to hold on to love, sometimes longer than he perhaps should, and he may work hard on forcing a partner into the script Rich has unconsciously written for him! When Rich is happy with David (which often coincides with Rich’s perception that David is right there with you in an emotional sense), Rich is generous to a fault, with little thought of the future. Rich takes the ups and downs of his romantic relationships to heart, more so than most people, simply because Rich invests so much of his ego and identity into love! Rich’s warmth is extremely dependent upon the amount of attention and affection he receives. Although Rich may begin relationships with considerable ardency, if he is not showered with attention and made to feel special over the course of time, he will surely lose passion for the relationship. Rich’s need for appreciation from David is paramount, yet all too often he comes on strong in love and a partner misinterprets Rich’s ardor as brazen confidence. This can be a vicious circle, because what David may not know is that, in fact, Rich is not as sure of himself as he seems, and David’s reassurances are vital! It is easy for Rich to jump into relationships without too much thought. However, Rich’s expectations are high, and David needs to understand that for a relationship with Rich to survive over the long haul, it needs to be stoked constantly. Rich will hang on to a relationship longer than most, but his expectations are so high that disappointment is almost inevitable. More than most signs, Rich would benefit from waiting to marry when he is older and more sure of himself. When Rich is happy in his relationship, his warmth and eagerness are admirable!

How David and Rich Blend:

Rich is insatiably expressive in love relationships, often impulsive, and very demonstrative. David possess a more steady, practical view of relationships. Dramatizing feelings is as natural as breathing to Rich (he doesn’t just like something, he adores it; he isn’t simply hurt by what you say, he is devastated, etc.). David, on the other hand, is more reserved about his feelings and desires, as he is cautious about letting another person into his heart. In fact, David may at times find gushy emotions uncomfortable and downright impractical. David may question the sincerity behind Rich’s demonstrations. Both of them value loyalty and security in partnerships, but their styles of expressing love are radically different. Rich needs to be reminded that the constancy of David’s feelings are very valuable. David is certainly more concerned about where the relationship is headed. Rich, on the other hand, is living for the moment where love is concerned. If they share finances, similar conflicts can arise between them! Both in love and with money, David believes in moderation, and Rich is inclined to go overboard in both areas. David should remember that Rich’s ego is tied up in how David treats him, and there is the risk that Rich’s apparent over-confidence will prompt David to want to curb it by limiting compliments! If this is the case, Rich is likely to lose interest fast. David needs to understand that Rich is far more insecure in love than he lets on. David values solitude from time to time, and his occasional withdrawal is sure to fire Rich up. Rich’s head is often in the clouds when it comes to love, and his vision of the future is generally positive, while David is largely realistic. Sounds like an unlikely couple? It does, but if both of are willing, they can certainly learn a lot from each other. David might enjoy Rich’s ability to brighten up his day, and Rich will love David’s extraordinary sense of humor and commitment to making things work between them.

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Scrapbook: The Dark Knight ticket stub

October 11th, 2008 Comments off

Saw this move with Rich a few weeks after it had already been in theatres.

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Bad touch by a Jesus

September 14th, 2008 Comments off

I was forwarded a YouTube video clip from Rich today. It’s from a 80s-something band called “Sonseed,” singing a ska song named “Jesus is my Friend.” Wow.

It is CAMP-A-LICIOUS and hilarious with a catchy tune.

The lyrics alone make this worth watching and listening to: 

♫ Once I tried to run; I tried to run and hide, but Jesus came and found me and touched me down inside.

He is like a mounty, he always gets his man and he’ll zap you any way he can. ZAP!♫

Bad touch, Jesus!

Here’s the video (warning: It’s addictive):

[youtube:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7-NOZU2iPA8]

For an update on what happened to the members of this band, check out the interview with the singer (Sal Polichetti) on Dougsploitation: Sal of Sonseed tells all!

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Rich and David’s wedding vows

June 18th, 2008 5 comments

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For those of you who missed it, you can now watch the wedding vows of Richard and David Speakman. We took our vows in San Jose on June 17, 2008 at 9:11 (how’s that for an omen) a.m. as the first same-gender couple in the 10th-largest city in the United States to be legally married.

We shared our day with a wonderful female couple, Ronni and Hannah Pahl,  who were married about 6 minutes after us. They were accompanied by their 12-year-old son. In the end we were the first male and female couples to be married in Silicon Valley and Santa Clara County.

When I watch this video I have two thoughts: 1) I need to lose 40 pounds, 2) relief that it’s finally over. After 6 years together, I’m really happy that I can finally refer to Rich as my husband without it just being wishful thinking. And as for the middle-age spread I have going on, I just chalk it up to the fact that for most people, a happy and long relationship + two good cooks under one roof = pleasing plumpness.

Heck, I’d rather be fat and happy than skinny and single any day.

Credit for this video goes to KPIX-TV, the local CBS affiliate.
Unfortunately, the size of the video had to be cropped to fit on my web server, so I had to edit out Ronni and Hannah’s vows.

I open my stupid mouth – and am quoted in the paper

June 5th, 2008 Comments off

Reading today’s San Jose Mercury-News, something tells me I’ll be buying flowers for Rich soon.

David and Rich Speakman of Mountain View will be the first in line at 8:30 a.m. Supervisor Ken Yeager, himself a gay man who was just this week deputized to conduct marriages, will officiate.

“It’s not really a political statement at all, we just want it over with,” said David Speakman, 40. However, he is learning that wedding ceremonies often come with trappings. “My partner is turning into kind of a mini-groomzilla. He wants to have people over.”

Yeah… I’m gonna have to buy flowers, alright. Read the full story here.

Scrapbook: Rich’s Scotland property – 2007

February 10th, 2008 Comments off

03 Laird Richard's Title04 Laird Richards Holding The title and description of Rich’s 1-square-foot land holding in Scotland. His mom bought it as a lark.

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Scrapbook: Christmas Present from Rich’s mom – 2007

February 9th, 2008 Comments off

01 packet02 letterThis is a scan of the envelope and cover letter for the land that Rich’s Mom bought me and him for Christmas in 2007. So, under Scot common law, we are both land holders, which under old-time law allows us to style ourselves with the title, “laird.”

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Scrapbook: First domestic partner insurance card – 2002

January 31st, 2008 Comments off

svbiz ink domestic partner Insurance - 2002Now for non-gay people this may not seem like a big deal. But believe me, it is. This card was the first insurance card that I had that included Rich as my domestic partner and dependent. If you click and enlarge the photo, you’ll notice the name of “Joshua,” too. Rich became the legal guardian of his cousin after the death of Josh’s mother – this happened well before Rich and I ever met. They came as a package deal. Here, Josh was included on my insurance as my stepchild.

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Scrapbook: ticket stub for Christmas with the Crawfords – 2004

January 29th, 2008 Comments off

christmas with the crawfords - ticket stub - 2004This is from a play, Christmas with the Crawfords, that Rich and I went to (with many friends) on New Years Day 2004 at San Francisco’s LGBT Rhino Theatre. The play was a satire take on Mommie Dearest where Joan Crawford is an unwitting victim of her horrid little girl, Christina. It was great fun.

Scrapbook: DragonCon 2002 membership confirmation

January 15th, 2008 Comments off

DC 2002 Membership PostcardThis is the postcard I got that confirmed my membership to DragonCon 2002. After I met Rich, I bought him a ticket and flew him out with me. The convention happened three weeks after I was laid off when ON24 News closed down.

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